Separate the emotion from your identity

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Feeling something is not the same as being it.

An emotion can be present.

You can notice what is here and name it in your own words.

The emotion is not your identity.

It does not become a judgment about who you are or what kind of person you must be.

A broad label or polished explanation can leave the present experience full underneath.

Keep the sequence clear from the start

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State must come before story.

Begin with the first movement

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Movement one helps you notice without identity.

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What was happening

Choose one recent experience that feels safe enough to work with now.

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What I noticed in my body

Use sensory words without interpreting what the sensation means.

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The truest emotion I could name

If the first label is broad, ask what sits underneath or alongside it.

Begin with the body before choosing the emotion label.

Continue into the second movement

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Movement two helps you meet the part and allow safe expression.

The part that seemed present

The name comes from you and does not become a fixed identity.

What this part may have been trying to do

Keep the purpose as a possibility rather than a fixed conclusion.

What this part has given me

Notice how it may have helped without calling the part good or bad.

What it costs when it drives too long

Look at what happens when the part stays in charge beyond the moment.

Keep working through the second movement

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Choose one safe way to make room for what is present.

Write a short, unpolished brain dump.

Sit in silence and notice what your intuition is saying.

Use music to access a feeling you tend to avoid.

Speak with a trusted human who can be present with you.

Move into the third movement

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Movement three helps you respond after settling.

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My wise conversation or action after settling

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My early signal for next time

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My safe next-time response

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Who I can speak with if I need support

Pause and reflect before moving on

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Before you move on, say out loud the one thing that surprised you in this video, and the first place you will use it.

Finish one action and one commitment

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Finish the same plan by tomorrow

Start and complete one Emotional Processing and Response Plan for a recent emotional experience that feels safe to work with, by the same time tomorrow.

Write one commitment in your own words

Finish this sentence in your own words: if I encounter a strong or flattened emotion, then I will open my Emotional Processing and Response Plan and start with what I notice in my body, by the same time tomorrow.

Name what you will actually use tomorrow

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Before you close this video, drop one line in the community: what will you use tomorrow? Not what you liked, what you will actually use.

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